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That last post brought some people out of the paneling and into the comments! Some delurkers. Some new readers. Some old friends. Thanks so much for your kind words, and apologies for not responding. I was away…I took a cheap flight to MA to surprise my mother for her birthday (which is actually tomorrow). My awesome sister had the idea to get a bunch of broads together for drinks and dinner on Saturday night to celebrate and my terribly handsome brother joined us, as did dear Cathy.

So yummy and a great mix of people. A whirlwind of a visit and right back to Ohio to bang my head against the cubicle wall.

What’s going on in the background

There’s always something happening while I’m busy with meal preparations and I seldom have anyone in the kitchen to help me. Sometimes this is just the way I want it, to have the kitchen and my thoughts all to myself. But other times I feel like the little red hen and get all overwhelmed by all of the chopping and peeling and mixing and measuring with the clock moving so fast. When I’m feeling behind like that, my resentment can flare up without warning, catching me and everyone else by surprise. Kind of puts a negative spin on dinnertime.

Here’s part of our first real harvest of Haricot Verts, ends snipped off and ready for the steamer. In the background you can almost see Tyler and his friend out in the yard carving wood stakes into swords. Shortly after this photo was taken, they stood up and began to duel. Within ten minutes the swords were broken and they began a new set.

bowl of beans with kids in the background

Here’s the first Black Krim tomato. It fell off the vine and while yummy-ish chopped up with two just-picked Boston Pickling cucumbers and tossed with a little balsamic dressing, I think it could have used another day or two to ripen fully. You can almost see Chris in the background. He’s scooping the leaves and grass out of the pool while Lila crab walks around in the water with just her head above the surface.

first black krim tomato with Lila and daddy in the background

Meanwhile, I was inside shredding the baseball bat zucchinis, cracking eggs, grating Parmesan, sautéing onions and peppers, mincing herbs—all for zucchini fritters. Once again I watched the clock go from 6:30 to 8pm and my meal was just getting served and I thought, hell I need a sou chef.

The beans were divine. I do not think I will ever tire of the flavor of these beans, especially when picked so young and tender. They taste like green. I eat them and I think, wow, I’m taking all of this green into my body. Pure green. I’m so happy I planted two more big patches. I need to run out tonight to pick again before they get too fat and tough. My favorite way to eat them is whole, steamed very lightly so they’re still quite crunchy (this only tastes good when you pick them super small) then a wee dab of butter melted on the hot beans, tossed with coarse sea salt and cracked pepper. Sometimes I’ll snip a little fresh dill on top. Truly, the most heavenly flavor in the garden right now, but the Brandywines are coming on, so make room, baby.

Happy 4th Birthday, Lila-Lou (a day late as usual)

I woke you up yesterday, singing Happy Birthday and We All Love You. You hopped up onto your knees and said, “Can you believe it?! I’m four years old now and all it took was one more sleep!”

We talked about some of the ways you’re now a big girl:

You can button, snap and zip.
You spell and write your name (with upside down “L”s).
You count to 20, or to 100 by 10s.
You know your ABCs and put on your own shoes.
You’ve started sleeping in your own bed and when you wake up at night you don’t cry. You just tiptoe into our room and say, “I’d like to come in bed with you now.”
You also don’t cry when I leave you with someone else.
You’re ready to like vegetables. And fruit. And less sugar.
You look forward to our Saturday trip to the farmer’s market. You help me make the shopping list and you carry your own bag.
You learned how to pump on the swing, and to do a flip on the rings.

We ran out of time because Daddy had to take you to school.

While you were gone, I baked you a cake.

Happy Birthday to Lila Cake

I spelled your name the way you signed it on my birthday card in May.

Lila Makes A Wish

It looks like you made a super wish, and I hope it comes true!

Mercury In Retrograde Communication Breakdown

I haven’t felt it this bad in a long time, this Mercury in retrograde wire-crossing madness. Chris and I can’t even have a conversation. It’s as if I’m speaking an alien language and he understands absolutely nothing that is coming out of my mouth. I can’t understand why he doesn’t understand, so I say it again, this time with feeling. Not warm fuzzy feeling, either. My brain can’t seem to call up a different wording, a better way to explain what I’m trying to get across. I just say the same thing, only a little bit louder and with just a touch of venom. Still the blank, exhausted look on his face. “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”

I haven’t spent more than two minutes in the garden all week, and I’m feeling it. The discombobulation. Gardening is my therapy and right now, I need some back-to-back sessions to get myself on track again. But it’s Friday. One more day of institutional, corporate, unintelligible marketing lingo bull crap communication, then five days off. Of course, the middle day is surgery day, and you can measure my level of frustration by the fact that I’m so looking forward to having two days off to get my shoulder sliced like a roll of bologna. I intend to spend great chunks of Saturday and Sunday with my hands stuck in the dirt, not talking at all.

Yes. That’s what I’ll do. A vow of silence until Mercury moves out of retrograde on the 9th. If you need me, I’ll be in the tomato patch, that soft, sweet place just the other side of the woods.

in the garden

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Weekend Wrap-up (in photos)

The peppers seem to be limping along in the face of the slugs and the beetles. They’re all producing tiny flower buds even though their leaves are a total and complete trainwreck.

what's eating these leaves?

Nightshade flowers are so, so dainty. Really, I’m going to have more potatoes than I know what to do with, and need to look at some recipes for the freezer. Then buy a freezer! You can see the 30-foot long tomato trellis in the background. I moved around the volunteers, I guess about 24 of them, and so far so good.

potato flower

Again, with the photoshop silliness. I don’t know, this one didn’t come out the way it did in my mind…the nightshade in the shade of the giant oaks at dusk. Almost.

the nightshade blooms

I love having a clothesline. Chris installed it two weekends ago and bless him, he’s going to change out the cheap-ass plastic clamps that make the arms extend (two of which busted before we even had the sucker set up) to heavy-duty steel clamps. Why is everything made like such crap any more? I didn’t want a long, rope clothesline going across the yard. I felt like the visual interference would have cut across my sense of stability here, or my creativity. Or something. I like this contained cubic area of energy efficiency. Isn’t the little clothespin bag my mother made so perfect?

laundry on the line

I’ve never grown Fava Beans before, and only eaten them once. Truth? I don’t remember what they tasted like. I just love to say the name, Faahvaah Bean. The plants are stunning. So friends, tell me how to cook them!

fava bean plants

Can I do anything with them on the grill? Have I mentioned how much I love my grill? I cooked on it both nights this weekend. Sausage and vegetables on Saturday; chicken last night. I never made it out to grocery shop yesterday, so my One Local Summer meal will come later in the week.

the grill cover

I intend to toss a few of these volunteers into the salad that night. So far we’ve got five little patches of re-seeded nasturtium, and thank goodness, because I forgot to plant any.

volunteer nasturtiums

No shortage of salad greens yet, but the mustard family is going to seed.

salad bursting out of the beds

My mother in-law came over to eat with us last night. After dinner we sat out on the back steps and chatted while Chris and Lila took Old Tangerine down to the ice cream shop for a couple of pints (Orange Pineapple and Black Raspberry) because I never did manage to do anything with the strawberries and rhubarb. Maybe tonight some muffins and a sauce for homemade vanilla ice cream?

Old Tangerine the Corvaire

Anyway, mom and I both noticed how luscious the petunias are looking since the nights cooled down a little.

purple petunia

I’m just not a huge fan of annual flowers, but petunias always make me so happy, in spite of the absurd amount of watering and dead blossom pinching they require.

This weekend wasn’t nearly as productive as I had imagined, on paper, with my giant list and grandiose plans. But it was again an exercise in attention. The children needed quite a good deal of my focused energy, and every time I got into a project, something would interrupt. Always something pressingly immediate. I’m apparently still working on the whole surrender thing. Otherwise, why all of the practice runs?

I broke away from my cooking to rub arnica on Ty’s giant, stinky foot. He sprained his ankle pretty badly at a picnic yesterday afternoon, which means for at least a few days Chris and I will be handling his jobs, including taking care of the neighbor’s property and cat while they’re on vacation. One must drop down deep to find the sympathy when faced with a surly young man who thinks his sudden injury requires every waking hour be spent in front of the computer screen playing World of Warcraft. Not happening, buddy. Sorry for your pain, here’s an ice pack and some ibuprofen. And a good book. Password is changed.

As I sat on the toilet lid listening to Lila chirp on about her friends in the neighborhood while she had a bath (mid-afternoon emergency soak and alcohol rubdown, after she went traipsing barefoot through a giant patch of poison ivy) I felt this vein of frustration, of being thwarted. But on and on she sang her sweet song about swinging, and sliding, and how much she loves everyone. I made myself pay attention—let the garden and the filthy, messy, disorganized house all drift away. The tension drained out of me and I couldn’t have cared less if the garden failed again this year as long as she keeps on singing.

So something about feet. I’ll have to think on that a bit.

How was your weekend? Did you learn anything new about yourself?