Comments on: I’m listening, trust me http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/ in the garden, in the kitchen and on the page Thu, 28 Aug 2008 11:22:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: maya angelou pledge http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-63905 maya angelou pledge Sun, 18 May 2008 13:17:01 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-63905 [...] ever been a very good listener, particularly with new people. My brain always has one ear turned thttp://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/Michael Giltz: DVDs: The Red Balloon Vs. White Mane HuffingtonPostSome delightful children's shorts [...] […] ever been a very good listener, particularly with new people. My brain always has one ear turned thttp://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/Michael Giltz: DVDs: The Red Balloon Vs. White Mane HuffingtonPostSome delightful children’s shorts […]

]]> By: Kelly http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61736 Kelly Wed, 05 Mar 2008 15:14:11 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61736 Jeanne, not at all! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I cherish the conversation that happens here. It's funny, I was thinking that getting back to early morning meditation would probably help so much...rather than trying to force the exercise in the morning thing, which never works out as planned because Lila wakes up and can't stand to be alone in the morning...but doing some yoga and sitting with breath work would probably serve me very well...so thank you for the suggestion. I'll also have to check out the books you recommend. I could use something new to counterbalance the heavy-duty reading I've been doing (Derrick Jensen). Isn't it amazing how loud that inner dialog can be? The beating ourselves up? Wow. Jeanne, not at all! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I cherish the conversation that happens here. It’s funny, I was thinking that getting back to early morning meditation would probably help so much…rather than trying to force the exercise in the morning thing, which never works out as planned because Lila wakes up and can’t stand to be alone in the morning…but doing some yoga and sitting with breath work would probably serve me very well…so thank you for the suggestion.

I’ll also have to check out the books you recommend. I could use something new to counterbalance the heavy-duty reading I’ve been doing (Derrick Jensen).

Isn’t it amazing how loud that inner dialog can be? The beating ourselves up? Wow.

]]> By: Kelly http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61735 Kelly Wed, 05 Mar 2008 15:11:06 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61735 Hey, farmer's wife!! I have a friend who is so very good at drawing people out with awesome questions. she and I are working on a collaboration venture right now involving my cupcakes and her conversation... and it's so cool knowing someone who can do that so easily. I've learned a lot from hanging back and watching that in action. I'd like to get to where I feel comfortable doing the same, but I've always just kind of frozen and stuttered my way along...even when I'm talking about myself. I'm a big stammerer. Thank you for the encouragement, it means so much. Hey, farmer’s wife!! I have a friend who is so very good at drawing people out with awesome questions. she and I are working on a collaboration venture right now involving my cupcakes and her conversation… and it’s so cool knowing someone who can do that so easily. I’ve learned a lot from hanging back and watching that in action. I’d like to get to where I feel comfortable doing the same, but I’ve always just kind of frozen and stuttered my way along…even when I’m talking about myself. I’m a big stammerer.

Thank you for the encouragement, it means so much.

]]> By: Jeanne http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61733 Jeanne Wed, 05 Mar 2008 14:40:19 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61733 At the risk of sounding like I'm proselytizing it sounds like 15 minutes at the beginning of your day spent focusing on your breath might be helpful. "Is it weird that I want to discover the earnest listener inside of me?" I don't think it's weird at all and can identify with so much of what you say. I've found listening to myself and my mind, when I meditate, and then letting it go helps me befriend and be kinder to myself instead of getting caught up in my story about myself (which usually involves beating up on myself or my life in some way!). If that makes sense. I don't know if you'd be into it, but I've found Pema Chodron to be helpful in this, there are two books in particular "Comfortable with Uncertainty" and "The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving-Kindness." One of the best things about them is that they are broken up into very short readings perfect for people like me who find focusing for longer difficult:-) Anyway, not trying to make you feel there is something you *should* be doing, just sharing something that sometimes helps me! At the risk of sounding like I’m proselytizing it sounds like 15 minutes at the beginning of your day spent focusing on your breath might be helpful.

“Is it weird that I want to discover the earnest listener inside of me?”

I don’t think it’s weird at all and can identify with so much of what you say. I’ve found listening to myself and my mind, when I meditate, and then letting it go helps me befriend and be kinder to myself instead of getting caught up in my story about myself (which usually involves beating up on myself or my life in some way!). If that makes sense.

I don’t know if you’d be into it, but I’ve found Pema Chodron to be helpful in this, there are two books in particular “Comfortable with Uncertainty” and “The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving-Kindness.” One of the best things about them is that they are broken up into very short readings perfect for people like me who find focusing for longer difficult:-)

Anyway, not trying to make you feel there is something you *should* be doing, just sharing something that sometimes helps me!

]]> By: the farmers wife http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61732 the farmers wife Wed, 05 Mar 2008 14:36:43 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61732 This post definitely strikes all kinds of chords. It's excellent and thought provoking. I find you to be a great listener and very open to idea and other points of view which is a very good thing to have. I'm a terrible listener at times bit I've found that I have an uncanny ability to read between the lines. My habit is to interview people. When they talk I have a thousand questions, some maybe not my business to ask but I can't help myself since I always want to know how people tick. I'm really looking forward to the announcement! This post definitely strikes all kinds of chords. It’s excellent and thought provoking. I find you to be a great listener and very open to idea and other points of view which is a very good thing to have.

I’m a terrible listener at times bit I’ve found that I have an uncanny ability to read between the lines. My habit is to interview people. When they talk I have a thousand questions, some maybe not my business to ask but I can’t help myself since I always want to know how people tick.

I’m really looking forward to the announcement!

]]> By: Kelly http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61731 Kelly Wed, 05 Mar 2008 14:26:37 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61731 Thank you mdddf, Cathy. I think that's what I'm missing most...writing from the heart. I've been too focused on writing about external processes and the flow is all jammed up. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo. Thank you mdddf, Cathy. I think that’s what I’m missing most…writing from the heart. I’ve been too focused on writing about external processes and the flow is all jammed up. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo.

]]> By: Cathy http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61730 Cathy Wed, 05 Mar 2008 13:48:55 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61730 Well, I experience you as a both a wonderful listener and talker! It's the same for all of us, I think—the self-consciousness when we're not quite relaxed into ourselves. Good to notice where we are. Look forward to whatever you do next but very happy just to hear you reflect on where you are. Can't beat writing from the heart. So much to think about. Thank you! Well, I experience you as a both a wonderful listener and talker! It’s the same for all of us, I think—the self-consciousness when we’re not quite relaxed into ourselves. Good to notice where we are. Look forward to whatever you do next but very happy just to hear you reflect on where you are. Can’t beat writing from the heart. So much to think about. Thank you!

]]> By: Kelly http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61729 Kelly Wed, 05 Mar 2008 13:38:20 +0000 http://herablehands.com/2008/03/04/im-listening-trust-me/#comment-61729 Hey, Anna! Thanks so much for chiming in...and no, I don't NOT like you for sharing your thoughts... remember? I'm listening... I do think I'm entering a perimenopausal phase, will be 41 in May and have a much harder time bouncing back from any overdoing. I am working on changing my diet--the carbs and dairy overload seem to be the two things that slow me way down and make me very uh...puffy. Also exercising more, but do need to ramp that up some. Thank goodness the weather will begin to shift soon so I can get back to taking long walks (people don't clean their sidewalks off very well around here and I've slipped and fallen too many times). Don't want to break a hip or anything. ; ) so thanks for the input and the reminder... it's surely not all in my head. Hey, Anna! Thanks so much for chiming in…and no, I don’t NOT like you for sharing your thoughts… remember? I’m listening…

I do think I’m entering a perimenopausal phase, will be 41 in May and have a much harder time bouncing back from any overdoing. I am working on changing my diet–the carbs and dairy overload seem to be the two things that slow me way down and make me very uh…puffy. Also exercising more, but do need to ramp that up some. Thank goodness the weather will begin to shift soon so I can get back to taking long walks (people don’t clean their sidewalks off very well around here and I’ve slipped and fallen too many times). Don’t want to break a hip or anything. ; )

so thanks for the input and the reminder… it’s surely not all in my head.

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